of stereotypes, sins and genders

Dipali and Pallavi tagged me to list at least ten things I have wanted or done which my gender is not supposed to. Being not just A woman, but an Indian woman, seriously influenced by Hindi cinema, I thought that I am:

sadly none of this, whatsoever, no grace, no dancing skills, no utterly, utterly breath-taking beauty.

but maybe, a little bit of this – a little oomph, a bit of a pout, and lots of twists. Also not afraid of dancing in a crowd.

I’d like to claim I’m none of this, but the truth is I can be quite weepy, and clingy, and self-pitying, on a gloomy day.

but I can also be brazen, and tough, and intelligent

And shrewish, and demanding, and spoilt

Flirtatious, and a tease

And while I’m nowhere near physically as strong or able like her, this is what I’d like most to be.

I’m certainly not this – angry at the world, and very, very male chauvinistic

But yes, a little bit of this – a drifter and a dreamer

and a little bit of this – stoic and dignified

and a lot of that – envious, mean, bad, and can go a long way to get what I want. Though what I want is not necessarily good for me, or the universe.

I tag Memsaab, Shweta, Rum, Filmi Geek, Dusted Off, Antara, Shankari, Bollyviewer, Indie Quill, Priya, Aquatic Static and Sharmi

38 comments

  1. Ooh this is a tough, but good tag. This is going to take some thinking- thanks for the challange! You post is so perfect though-and its rather super to have a Bindu/Nadira/Dev/Pran inner self I think- SO fun!

  2. Love love love this post. (incidentally, I started working on a blog post last night about what it means to be woman in this country, with my privileges, notions of feminism etc. It was turning out to be rubbish so I didn’t publish it…now you have given me lots to think about).

    • No, no, bollywooddeewana, cannot claim to be clever. It’s just the setting on my template, and I liked the way it came up in the preview.:)

    • Your list is cool, I like strides, and firm handshakes, broad smiles and loud laughters. And I like women who break age-old traditional rules that make no human sense.:)

    • Bollyviewer, want to see your choices.:) No, definitely no AB. I wanted to add Balraj Sahni’s smile too, but that would be presumptuous.:)

  3. WOW! Loved the way you have done this!!
    “angry at the world, and very, very male chauvinistic” I agree and I have blogged about Amitabh Bachchan too, in one movie he is a police officer and tells Zeenat Aman, who complains against an eve teaser (street sexual molester) “If you wear such clothes, what else do you expect to hear if not whistles? Temple bells?”
    She asks, “What’s wrong with these clothes?”
    And he says, “Bahut kam hain” I am sure any street sexual molester who hears this dialogue must think Taliban is doing a service to the society by protecting it from such badly dressed women.

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